Hey, this is Mukesh Wawis the man in your life will want something that he doesn't articulate,
he doesn't share and it's either because he doesn't know how to ask for the thing or he's too embarrassed to ask for that thing. Either way, when that goes unsaid you have no idea what he may desire in the relationship.
So today I'm gonna share with you seven things that men want, but don't ask for in a relationship.
No 1, Is He Wants You To Be Happy.
effectiveness as a man in the relationship. After interviewing hundreds of couples who've been
married over 40 years often the men would say, look, if mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy.
Your happiness is tied to our sense of worth as a man so we want you to be happy. So if you're not happy don't be surprised if your man starts to get restless and he's either gonna try to fix the thing that you're unhappy about or he's going to avoid until you become happy. But, your happiness is key to his happiness.
No 2, Is He Wants You To Take Interest.
In his interests. Men love it when you become passionate about what he's passionate about.
So whether that's a favorite sports team or whether that's a hobby that he loves like rc planes or racing or whether that's a job that he's passionate about.
When you start to show interest in those things it builds a bond and a connection between the
two of you. Men rarely ask for this. A buddy of mine was tellin' me a story about how he's an
avid football fan and he loves the Steelers and he called his long distance girlfriend one Sunday
just to kinda check in with her and say, hey, what are you doin'.
And she goes, what do you mean, what am I doin'? I'm gettin' ready for the Steeler game.
Then she started talkin' about the game and what was comin' up and he's tellin' me, he's like I couldn't believe she was actually getting ready for the game.
I felt my heart connect to her. I totally melted because she's passionate about something that I'm passionate about because here's the deal. When you connect to something that he loves the love that he has for that thing now connects to you.
No 3, Is He Wants You To Initiate The Sex.
Go ahead and be bold, surprise him. Come out of the bathroom in that, some sexy lingerie,
maybe that outfit you haven't put on in a while, right. He wants you to be the one initiating sex
unless however, you are the sex machine in the relationship and you're doing all the initiating.
In which case give the man a breather. Now, I have a free gift for you also.
No 4, Is Your man wants to be praised
And acknowledged and yet no man will ask for this, or rarely ask for this and yet, it's what we crave the most is that praise and acknowledgement to know that we're doin' a good job as your man.
So, it can be something as simple as just a favor that he does for you and you say, hey babe, thank you so much for bringin' the food home today, I really appreciate that. Or, you can praise him for an everyday common experience like him giving you a hug, so the next time he gives you a hug whisper in his ear and say, babe did you know you give the best hugs in the world and you will see him expand. You will see him literally like feel better about himself because remember this. A man's sense of self expands under the lightof your praise.
No 5, Is He Wants You To Encourage Him To Adventure.
Now, men we're often conditioned to believe that women want way more time together than we want and you and I both know that that's not true.
You want your independence just as much as he does. You want your your time or time with the girlfriends just as much as he does, but men were often conditioned to believe that if we ask for time away then you're gonna get your feelings hurt or that's gonna be seen as a bad thing.
So, when you actually encourage him to go adventure in his life, to go get some guy time or to go do something that he loves he is going to love that. So you could simply say, hey babe, I've got Sunday brunch with my girlfriends this Sunday. Why don't you go and create a boys day? And he's going to love that. And, that type of freedom actually creates a desire to invest more time with you.
NO 6, Is He Wants Your Confidence In Him.
Again, this is very difficult to ask for but it's obvious when he doesn't get it, but it's also very easy to show your confidence in him and here's how it works. Confidence in him is as simple as giving him a task and then letting him complete the task for you, but often times what will happen is there'll be the type of woman who says, hey, would you take me on a date. Would you drive me and let's go to this restaurant? And then while they're driving there she's tellin' him the best way to go and she's instructing him on where to park.
Or she says, hey honey, will you wash the dishes? And as he's washing the dishes and putting them in the dishwasher she's correcting him and saying no, the glass goes here and put the dish in that way and she's micro managing the situation.
When that happens he feels like you don't trust him to actually provide for you. But, allowing him to accomplish the task, actually sitting back and letting him serve you shows that you have faith in his abilities. And showing faith in his abilities is showing faith in the man himself.
No 7, Your man has a deep desire for respect.
Now, when I travel 12,000 miles around the United States interviewing America's greatest marriages, respect was the number one principle that all these couples talked about. And yet, respect can also be a little bit ambiguous and how do we know that we're respecting each other. But respect shows up in the little things.
It shows up in the way we listen to one another. It shows up in the way we show up on time and keep an agreement for when we're gonna meet one another. It shows up in the way we honor each other's differences and make it okay that we don't have to like the same things or have the same opinions all the time.
And, it shows up in how we are courteous to one another in saying please and thank you for things. I remember I was blown away, one of the things that just absolutely blew my mind about my wife when we were dating was how respectful she was and how she never let the little things get by her without showing appreciation.
And even after we got married we would go out to dinner, our bank accounts are combined, she's contributing to the money, I'm contributing to the money. We go out to dinner, I get the bill, I pull out, I pay for dinner and at the end of dinner she says, thank you for dinner, honey and she gives me a big kiss. And I'm thinkin' well hey, your money's in here just like my money is, but simply the fact of her appreciating those little things shows respect.
It shows appreciation and it makes, it's a big deal and it goes a long way. So, think about what are the ways that you can show respect to your man 'cause it's a big thing that he wants that he will probably never ask for. So there you have it. Seven things that men want, but don't ask for as a way for you to build a stronger connection with your man.
I've got a question for you now. What do you want in a relationship that you rarely ask for?
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